Baby Mama Drama...

Yes, that's right..... my inbox was flooded with much love for the D.B.B.D. blog but request to address the baby mama drama epidemic. Now, as a mother of two doing this solo 100% of the time, I pity no mother. Reason is, we were bread to survive, evolve and prosper. However, there are those B.M's out there putting the reputation of ALL single B.M's to shame by complete ignorance. Now, I understand the occassional shit talking session with your girlfriends..... It's to be expected. In moderation.

For instance, if you have a B.D. that is and has been trying to see his child, coughs up money whenever an unexpected necessity may pop up, breaks plans on his night off because an opportunity has come up for you and you need a sitter, is present for each event of your child's life (i.e. kindergarten graduation, sporting events, holiday programs, dr's appointments, ect...) stop what you are doing and give thanks to that man. Sure you may not be his biggest fan, you may think he is a moron or a dueche bag, but your kid has a dad. Stop making his life so hard, consider yourself fuckin lucky. If he tries to do all these things, and because you are on a control ride, you need to be dropped kicked in the face. It is your obligation as a mother to provide your child with safety, love and happiness. Now stop for a second.... Did you just honestly think to yourself that by keeping your child from their father that you were providing them with the 3 things mentioned? If so, you're an idiot. I am hoping, that you, as I did, had a father that was present. A father that committed himself to you as a parent and supported your every dream, regardless how unrealistic he internally thought it may be. If you didn't, I am sorry for you, however, if you had, stop and think for one moment, where would you be if your mother made it impossible for him to be apart of your life, because she was honestly petty enough to allow her hatred cease the existance of your first love.

If you are worried that your B.D's new bitch will win the love of your child, you should be thankful that your child is comfortable enough to be around her.... she could be a cunt and make his life miserable, besides your child will NEVER love her the way they love you.... It's impossible.

There are women out there who are envious of women who have B.D's who give two shits fuck about their kids..... Regardless if it is in two seperate homes, children were meant to be loved and raised by two parents. Just remember when raising your kids what you could do differently from your childhood or give your children that you were missing growing up, to make your child a better person than you are. Teach them to love, not to exude hatred.

Ladies, try to give em a break.... They aren't perfect they are learning as are you to parent, if you don't give them the opportunity, they will never learn.....

Let your heart go.....

Your personal Madam

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